There are other ways of finding satisfaction, recipes for human happiness, enjoyment, dignified and meaningful, gratifying life, than increased consumption that increases production.
Human attention tends to be focused on the satisfactions relationships are hoped to bring, precisely because somehow they have not been truly satisfactory. And if they do satisfy, the price of this satisfaction has often been found to be unacceptable.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote highlights that relationships are often viewed through the lens of what they can provide, which can lead to disappointment when they fail to satisfy or come at a cost.
Zygmunt Bauman's quote reflects on the complexities of human relationships, pointing out that people often anticipate satisfaction from their connections with others. However, this expectation may arise from past disappointments, as relationships frequently do not meet emotional needs. Additionally, when relationships do provide happiness, it may come at a cost that feels too high, leading to a constant struggle to find fulfilling connections without the accompanying pain or sacrifice.
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In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about the importance of transparency in relationships, one might quote Bauman to highlight the complexity of relationships in today's world.
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