On rare occasions one does hear of a miraculous case of a married couple falling in love after marriage, but on close examination it will be found that it is a mere adjustment to the inevitable.
Emma GoldmanRead
Jealousy is indeed a poor medium to secure love, but it is a secure medium to destroy one's self-respect. For jealous people, like dope-fiends, stoop to the lowest level and in the end inspire only disgust and loathing.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Jealousy harms one's self-esteem and relationships rather than fostering love.
This quote by Emma Goldman emphasizes the destructive nature of jealousy in relationships. Rather than promoting love or affection, jealousy leads to a decline in self-respect and can cause significant harm, both to oneself and to one's partner. It portrays jealous individuals as acting in ways that are demeaning and ultimately unappealing, suggesting that jealousy is more harmful than beneficial in the pursuit of love.
Themes
JealousyLoveSelf-RespectRelationshipsDestruction
In practice
Example use cases
During a relationship seminar, one might use this quote to illustrate the dangers of jealousy.
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