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He destroyed in her the knowing, doubting, sophisticated Ella, and again and again he put her intelligence to sleep, and with her willing connivance, so that she floated darkly on her love for him, on her naivety, which is another word for a spontaneous creative faith. And when his own distrust of himself destroyed this woman-in-love, so that she began thinking, she would fight to return to naivety.
Doris Lessing
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Interpretation

What this quote means

The quote explores how love can lead to a loss of self-awareness and critical thinking, emphasizing a desire to return to a simpler state of being.

In this quote, Doris Lessing illustrates the complexity of love and its impact on one's identity and intellect. The protagonist's relationship leads to the suppression of her critical thinking and sophistication, as she becomes enveloped in her love. Eventually, when doubts arise about the authenticity of this love, she longs to reclaim her former naivety—an innocent faith that allows for deeper emotional experiences. The quote captures the tension between love and self-identity, suggesting that sometimes, in the depths of love, individuals might forsake their critical minds for emotional bliss.

Themes

LoveNaivetyIdentityRelationshipsIntelligence

In practice

Example use cases

During a romantic dinner, one might share this quote to highlight the complexities of love.

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