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I was late to understand that chaos and intensity are no subsitute for lasting love, nor are they necessarily an improvement on real life. Normal people are not always boring. On the contrary. Volatility and passion, although often more romantic and enticing, are not intrinsically preferable to a steadiness of experience and feeling about another person.
Kay Redfield Jamison
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What this quote means

The quote highlights the importance of steady love over chaotic intensity.

Kay Redfield Jamison emphasizes that while chaos and intense emotions can seem exciting and romantic, they do not necessarily lead to lasting love or a better life. She suggests that the 'normal' and stable aspects of relationships can be just as engaging and meaningful as the passionate highs and lows associated with volatility in love.

Themes

LoveChaosIntensityStabilityRelationships

In practice

Example use cases

In a discussion about various relationship dynamics, this quote can highlight the value of steady love.

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