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As you identify less and less with the “me”, you will be more at ease with everybody and with everything. Do you know why? Because you are no longer afraid of being hurt or not liked. You no longer desire to impress anyone. Can you imagine the relief when you don't have to impress anybody anymore? Oh, what a relief. Happiness at last!
Anthony De Mello
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Interpretation

What this quote means

Letting go of ego and the need for approval leads to true happiness and ease with others.

This quote by Anthony De Mello emphasizes the liberation that comes from shedding our ego and the constant desire to impress others. By moving away from the fixation on the 'self', we find a deeper connection with those around us and experience true happiness, as we are no longer burdened by the fear of rejection or judgment.

Themes

HappinessEgoApprovalFearLiberation

In practice

Example use cases

During a motivational speech about personal growth and acceptance.

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