Life cannot be without relationship, but we have made it so agonizing and hideous by basing it on personal and possessive love. Can one love and yet not possess? You will find the true answer not in escape, ideals, beliefs but through the understanding of the causes of dependence and possessiveness.
Interpretation
True love transcends possession and dependence.
Jiddu Krishnamurti's quote highlights the inherent necessity of relationships in life but critiques the toxic nature of possessive love. He suggests that true love should not be tied to ownership or dependency, urging individuals to understand the roots of their possessive tendencies rather than seeking escape or adhering to ideals.
In practice
This quote can be used during a relationship counseling session to inspire couples to reflect on their dependence on each other.
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