Choosing to take responsibility for ourselves and for the consequences our choices create looks like hard work, but it really sets us free.
Melody BeattieRead
Like it or not, i was already learning that in the worst and darkest time, I would find specks of light, moments of joy. What I didn't want to learn was the other, harsher lesson - that in life's brightest moments there would also be unbearable pain. p 87
Interpretation
Life includes both joyful and painful moments, often intertwined.
This quote highlights the duality of human experience, emphasizing that even during our darkest times, we can discover moments of joy, while at the same time, the brightest moments in life are often accompanied by their own share of pain. It suggests that understanding and accepting this complexity is an important part of personal growth and wisdom.
In practice
During a speech about resilience, one might quote this to emphasize the importance of finding hope in adversity.
Choosing to take responsibility for ourselves and for the consequences our choices create looks like hard work, but it really sets us free.
Today, I will focus on what's right about me. I will give myself some of the caring I've extended to the world.
Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.
Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible-controlling that which we cannot-and instead, focus on what is possible-which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.
What do you do when life blindfolds you and spins you around? We think it's our fault, that we're to blame, when really we should be focused on being gentle with ourselves.
I didn't have to scramble up and down the ladder from despair to euphoria anymore, trying to convince myself that life was either painful and terrible or joyous and wonderful. The simple truth was that life was both. p 214
Wherever smart people work, doors are unlocked.
Why do you put your self esteem in the hands of complete strangers?
I feel I'm doing what I should've done a lifetime ago. For a little while I'm not afraid. Maybe it's because I'm doing the right thing at last. Maybe it's because I've done a rash thing and don't want to look the coward to you.
The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.
When you are ignorant about something, to know that you are ignorant about it - that is knowledge.
A coward judges all he sees by what he is.
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