The need to be right can arise from a fear of being disrespected. Or it may come out of the fear of being seen as we really are: as flawed human beings who are perfectly imperfect and full of contradictions and confusions.
Julian TreasureRead
We all like to look good. However, this basic human desire can often get in the way of our listening and our speaking. This tendency often evinces itself in two simple words: 'I know.' But if I know everything, what can I learn? Absolutely nothing.
Interpretation
The desire to appear knowledgeable can obstruct our ability to listen and learn.
Julian Treasure's quote highlights the conflict between our innate desire to be perceived as knowledgeable and the essential process of listening and learning from others. The phrase 'I know' serves as a barrier to true understanding, suggesting that an attitude of certainty can prevent personal growth and the acquisition of new knowledge. By recognizing this tendency, we can cultivate a more open mindset that encourages active listening and curiosity.
In practice
In a team meeting, I might say, 'As Julian Treasure reminds us, saying 'I know' can hinder our ability to learn from each other.'
The need to be right can arise from a fear of being disrespected. Or it may come out of the fear of being seen as we really are: as flawed human beings who are perfectly imperfect and full of contradictions and confusions.
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