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As long as the "I" is there, love cannot be. All that we call love is only desire, longing, passion and attachment; as long as ego is there, all these bind one.
Interpretation
What this quote means
True love cannot exist when the ego is present, as it leads to attachment and desire.
In this quote, Rajneesh suggests that genuine love is unattainable when the ego is in play. Instead of pure love, what we often experience is a mix of desire, longing, and attachment, which are influenced by our sense of self. The ego creates barriers that prevent us from fully giving and receiving love, leading to a tainted version of affection that is rooted in selfish motivations rather than selfless connection.
Themes
EgoLoveAttachmentDesireLonging
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about relationships, one might say, 'As long as the 'I' is there, love cannot be,' to emphasize the importance of selflessness in love.
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