It is in books, poems, paintings which often give us the confidence to take seriously feelings in ourselves that we might otherwise never have thought to acknowledge.
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The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote expresses the deep desire for connection and purpose in romantic relationships.
Alain De Botton's quote highlights how the pursuit of meaningful relationships often feels intertwined with a sense of destiny. In our romantic lives, we long for connections that seem preordained or fated, suggesting that our desires for love are deeply rooted in our existential yearnings for significance and belonging.
Themes
DestinyRomanceLoveRelationshipsLonging
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about the nature of love at a wedding ceremony.
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