When the sage points at the moon, all that the idiot sees is the finger.
Anthony De MelloRead
In many ways we were drugged when we were young. We were brought up to need people. For what? For acceptance, approval, appreciation, applause.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote suggests that societal conditioning makes us dependent on others for validation and acceptance.
Anthony De Mello's quote reflects on the concept of emotional dependence that is cultivated in individuals during their upbringing. He argues that society instills a desire for external validation—such as acceptance, approval, appreciation, and applause—which can lead to a form of psychological 'drugging' that obscures our true selves and our intrinsic worth. This dependency can hinder personal growth and self-acceptance, emphasizing the need to break free from these societal constructs.
Themes
ValidationAcceptanceApprovalAppreciationDependency
In practice
Example use cases
In a motivational speech about self-acceptance, you can use this quote to highlight the importance of valuing oneself over seeking approval from others.
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