He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
Irvin D. YalomRead
Mature love is loving, not being loved.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Mature love emphasizes selfless giving rather than seeking validation or affection in return.
This quote by Irvin D. Yalom highlights the essence of mature love, which is characterized not by the desire for being loved, but by the act of loving itself. In mature love, individuals prioritize the wellbeing and happiness of their partner over their own need for affection, suggesting that true love is about commitment and connection rather than a transactional exchange of feelings.
Themes
Mature LoveSelflessnessAffectionCommitmentConnection
In practice
Example use cases
In a wedding speech, highlighting the importance of selfless love in a successful marriage.
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