It is when we try to grapple with another man's intimate need that we perceive how incomprehensible, wavering and misty are the beings that share with us the sight of the stars and the warmth of the sun. It is as if loneliness were a hard and absolute condition of existence; the envelope of flesh and blood on which our eyes are fixed melts before the outstretched hand, and there remains only the capricious, unconsolable and elusive spirit that no eye can follow, no hand can grasp.
Let them think what they liked, but I didn't mean to drown myself. I meant to swim till I sank -- but that's not the same thing.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the distinction between intention and perception, highlighting how one's true intentions can be misunderstood by others.
In this quote, Joseph Conrad reflects on the disparity between how one's actions are perceived by others and the true intentions behind those actions. He uses the metaphor of swimming until sinking to illustrate the idea that he aimed to persevere and tackle challenges, rather than giving up or succumbing to despair. This reinforces a deeper philosophical understanding of human experience, where motivations can be misconstrued in the eyes of observers.
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Example use cases
During a discussion about personal challenges, I shared this quote to highlight how intentions can often be misjudged.
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I quote others only in order the better to express myself.