What is much harder to handle is the sense that you have to live up to the mark someone else has set for you. The grades become too important, the competition too frantic, the fear of disappointing those who believe in you turns into an overwhelming nightmare.
Interpretation
The pressure to meet external expectations can be overwhelming and detrimental to one's well-being.
In this quote, Sydney J. Harris highlights the mental and emotional burden that comes with trying to live up to the expectations set by others. He emphasizes how the pursuit of grades and competition can lead to anxiety and fear of disappointing those who have faith in us, transforming our aspirations into a source of stress rather than motivation.
In practice
During a graduation speech, one might use this quote to discuss the pressures students face.
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I do not write for this generation. I am writing for other ages. If this could read me, they would burn my books, the work of my whole life. On the other hand, the generation which interprets these writings will be an educated generation; they will understand me and say: 'Not all were asleep in the nighttime of our grandparents.'
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She has spent most of the day reading and is feeling rather out of touch with reality, as if her own life has become insubstantial in the face of the fiction she's been absorbed in.
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