Every one sees what you appear to be, few really know what you are, and those few dare not oppose themselves to the opinion of the many, who have the majesty of the state to defend them.
For it must be noted, that men must either be caressed or else annihilated; they will revenge themselves for small injuries, but cannot do so for great ones; the injury therefore that we do to a man must be such that we need not fear his vengeance.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote suggests that people react more strongly to minor wrongs than major ones, indicating the importance of how we treat others.
Machiavelli's quote emphasizes the dynamics of power and revenge in human relationships. He argues that individuals are likely to retaliate for minor grievances due to their emotional responses, while significant injustices may overwhelm them, leading to an inability to act. Therefore, it is critical to manage how we inflict harm, ensuring that the injuries are calculated and moderate enough to avoid provoking serious retaliation. This reflects a pragmatic perspective on human nature and the strategic considerations in interpersonal dynamics.
Themes
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about leadership strategies, one might say, 'Remember Machiavelli's point: we must be careful how we deal with those we've wronged.'
More from Niccolo Machiavelli
All quotes →For that reason, let a prince have the credit of conquering and holding his state, the means will always be considered honest, and he will be praised by everybody because the vulgar are always taken by what a thing seems to be and by what comes of it; and in the world there are only the vulgar, for the few find a place there only when the many have no ground to rest on.
Many have imagined republics and principalities which have never been seen or known to exist in reality; for how we live is so far removed from how we ought to live, that he who abandons what is done for what ought to be done, will rather bring about his own ruin than his preservation.
Whoever conquers a free town and does not demolish it commits a great error and may expect to be ruined himself.
And here one must not that hatred is acquired just as much by means of good actions as by bad ones; and so, as I said above, if a prince wishes to maintain the state, he is often obliged not to be good; because whenever that group which you believe you need to support you is corrupted, whether it be the common people, the soldiers, or the nobles, it is to your advantage to follow their inclinations in order to satisfy them; and then good actions are your enemy.
The chief foundations of all states, new as well as old or composite, are good laws and good arms.
Similar quotes
Racial prejudice, anti-Semitism, or hatred of anyone with different beliefs has no place in the human mind or heart.
No one may pride himself at being more than an individual, and no one despondently think that he is not an individual.
In the name of what - except perhaps the coefficient of rarity - does man adorn himself with necklaces of shells and not spider's webs, with fox fur and not fox innards? In the name of what I don't know. Don't dirt, trash and filth, which are man's companions during his whole lifetime, deserve to be dearer to him and isn't it serving him well to remind him of their beauty?
anytime you catch folks lying, they scared of something!
People are, if anything, more touchy about being thought silly than they are about being thought unjust.
Money is the seed of money, and the first guinea is sometimes more difficult to acquire than the second million.