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We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves the way we are, and why we don't accept others the way they are.
Miguel Angel Ruiz
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What this quote means

Self-love is essential for acceptance and reduces self-abuse stemming from unrealistic perfectionism.

This quote emphasizes the importance of self-love as a fundamental aspect of our emotional well-being. Miguel Angel Ruiz argues that many people struggle with self-rejection due to an unattainable image of perfection, leading to a cycle of self-abuse. When individuals cultivate self-love, they learn to accept themselves and, in turn, are more capable of accepting others, fostering healthier relationships.

Themes

Self-LoveAcceptancePerfectionSelf-RejectionRelationships

In practice

Example use cases

This quote can be used as a reminder during a workshop on self-acceptance.

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