They had, finally, the only thing anyone really wants in life: someone to hold your hand when you die.
You couldn't pretend you had lost nothing... you had to begin there, not let your blood freeze over. If your heart turned away at this, it would turn away at something greater, then more and more until your heart stayed averted, immobile, your imagination redistributed away from the world and back only toward the bad maps of yourself, the sour pools of your own pulse, your own tiny, mean, and pointless wants.
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What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of acknowledging our losses and challenges as a way to avoid becoming emotionally stagnant.
In this quote, Lorrie Moore highlights the necessity of confronting our emotional wounds and losses instead of pretending they do not exist. She warns that if we allow ourselves to turn away from pain, we risk becoming emotionally numb, narrowing our perspective and losing touch with both the world around us and our capacity for deeper desires and connections. This suggests that engaging with our grief is crucial for personal growth and maintaining a vibrant relationship with life.
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Example use cases
In a speech about resilience, you could use this quote to illustrate the importance of facing our challenges.
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All quotes →I tried not to think about my life. I did not have any good solid plans for it long-term - no bad plans either, no plans at all - and the lostness of that, compared with the clear ambitions of my friends (marriage, children, law school), sometimes shamed me. Other times in my mind I defended such a condition as morally and intellectually superior - my life was open and ready and free - but that did not make it less lonely.
She was not good on the phone. She needed the face, the pattern of eyes, nose, trembling mouth... People talking were meant to look at a face, the disastrous cupcake of it, the hide-and-seek of the heart dashing across. With a phone, you said words, but you never watched them go in. You saw them off at the airport but never knew whether there was anyone there to greet them when they got off the plane.
No matter that you anticipate a thing; you get so used to it as part of the future that its actuality, its arrival, its force and presence, startles you, takes you by surprise, as would a ghost suddenly appearing in the room wearing familiar perfume and boots.
When I was in graduate school, I had a teacher who said to me, 'Women writers should marry somebody who thinks writing is cute. Because if they really realised what writing was, they would run a mile.'
She was unequal to anyone's wistfulness. She had made too little of her life. Its loneliness shamed her like a crime.
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