One of the big misconceptions is that affairs or trysts are flings about sex. And sometimes they are, but much more often they are about desire. And that is very different. The desire to feel special, to feel seen, to feel appreciated, to be laughed at or with. The desire to be desired. That does not manifest in a sexual act per se. Affairs make you feel alive. Alchemy means it's not about the actual sex, but the sexuality, the energy, the aura. It's the imagination and anticipation of it as much or instead of the actual experience of it.
Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness. - Esther Perel
Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness.
- Esther Perel
People cheat on each other in a hundred different ways: indifference, emotional neglect, contempt, lack of respect, years of refusal of intimacy. Che… - Esther Perel
People cheat on each other in a hundred different ways: indifference, emotional neglect, contempt, lack of respect, years of refusal of intimacy. Che…
At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been considered a contr… - Esther Perel
At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been considered a contr…
Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. - Esther Perel
Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.
Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much… - Esther Perel
Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much…
Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. - Esther Perel
Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.
Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy - Esther Perel
Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy
Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes. - Esther Perel
Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes.
Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of… - Esther Perel
Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of…
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