The very ingredients that nurture love - mutuality, reciprocity, protection, worry, responsibility for the other - are sometimes the very ingredients that stifle desire.
Esther PerelRead
Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Love balances security and adventure, with marriage marking the start of lasting romance.
Esther Perel's quote emphasizes that love is a complex blend of stability and excitement, suggesting that a committed relationship does not stifle romance but rather provides a foundation for it to deepen. By arguing that marriage should be viewed as the beginning rather than the conclusion of romantic feelings, Perel encourages couples to embrace both the security of partnership and the ongoing journey of love.
Themes
LoveMarriageRomanceCommitmentSecurityAdventure
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used during a wedding speech to highlight the importance of both stability and excitement in marriage.
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