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Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much that we want to leave the person we are with as we want to leave the person we have become.
Esther Perel
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Interpretation

What this quote means

People often seek change not just to escape others, but to rediscover themselves.

In this quote, Esther Perel highlights the idea that when individuals seek new experiences or change their surroundings, it is often not just about wanting to leave their current relationships or partners, but rather it is a deeper desire to reconnect with their own identity and essence. The longing to escape might stem from feeling lost or transformed into someone they do not recognize, prompting a quest for self-discovery and authenticity.

Themes

Self-DiscoveryChangeIdentityRelationshipsEscape

In practice

Example use cases

In a motivational speech about personal growth and self-awareness.

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