The one word I hear when people have affairs is that they feel alive. They don't talk about the fact they're having sex. They feel like they are engaged with their life. They describe an experience that beats back the deadness inside, which isn't the fault of the marriage or the partner. It's often the deadness that they have allowed to creep in for years on their own. But by definition, it's a transgressive act. And transgression is a breaking of the rules. And it gives you a sense of ownership and freedom. And ownership and freedom gives you a feeling of aliveness. It's a chain.
Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness. - Esther Perel
Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness.
- Esther Perel
People cheat on each other in a hundred different ways: indifference, emotional neglect, contempt, lack of respect, years of refusal of intimacy. Che… - Esther Perel
People cheat on each other in a hundred different ways: indifference, emotional neglect, contempt, lack of respect, years of refusal of intimacy. Che…
At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been considered a contr… - Esther Perel
At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been considered a contr…
Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much… - Esther Perel
Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much…
Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. - Esther Perel
Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.
Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery. - Esther Perel
Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.
Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy - Esther Perel
Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy
Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes. - Esther Perel
Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes.
Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of… - Esther Perel
Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of…
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