Community is a sign that love is possible in a materialistic world where people so often either ignore or fight each other. It is a sign that we don't need a lot of money to be happy--in fact, the opposite.
Jean VanierRead
We don’t know what to do with our own pain, so what to do with the pain of others? We don’t know what to do with our own weakness except hide it or pretend it doesn’t exist. So how can we welcome fully the weakness of another if we haven’t welcomed our own weakness?
Interpretation
What this quote means
Understanding our own struggles helps us empathize with others.
Jean Vanier's quote emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and understanding one's own vulnerabilities to better relate to the pain and weaknesses of others. It suggests that without acknowledging and embracing our own flaws, we cannot truly empathize with or support those who are suffering, as our personal experiences shape our capacity for compassion and connection.
Themes
PainWeaknessEmpathyVulnerabilitySelf-Acceptance
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about mental health, one could use this quote to illustrate the importance of understanding our own struggles before helping others.
More from Jean Vanier
All quotes →One of the marvelous things about community is that it enables us to welcome and help people in a way we couldn't as individuals. When we pool our strength and share the work and responsibility, we can welcome many people, even those in deep distress, and perhaps help them find self-confidence and inner healing.
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We all know well that we can do things for others and in the process crush them, making them feel that they are incapable of doing things by themselves. To love someone is to reveal to them their capacities for life, the light that is shining in them.
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True peace can rarely be imposed from the outside; it must be born within and between communities through meetings and dialogue and then carried outward.
Jean VanierRead
In any case, community is not about perfect people. It is about people who are bonded to each other, each of whom is a mixture of good and bad, darkness and light, love and hate.
Jean VanierRead
We have to remind ourselves constantly that we are not saviours. We are simply a tiny sign, among thousands of others, that love is possible, that the world is not condemned to a struggle between oppressors and oppressed, that class and racial warfare is not inevitable.
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