The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.
Carl RogersRead
Powerful is our need to be known, really known by ourselves and others, even if only for a moment.
Interpretation
The quote emphasizes the deep human desire for self-awareness and genuine connection with others.
Carl Rogers highlights a fundamental aspect of human existence: the yearning to be truly understood and recognized by both ourselves and those around us. This need for authenticity and validation, even if fleeting, plays a crucial role in our relationships and self-identity, suggesting that genuine connections can significantly impact our psychological well-being.
In practice
During a personal development workshop, this quote could be shared to stress the importance of vulnerability.
The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.
The kind of caring that the client-centered therapist desires to achieve is a gullible caring, in which clients are accepted as they say they are, not with a lurking suspicion in the therapist's mind that they may, in fact, be otherwise. This attitude is not stupidity on the therapist's part; it is the kind of attitude that is most likely to lead to trust.
I prize the privilege of being alone.
Though modern Marriage is a tremendous laboratory, its members are often without preparation for the partnership function. How much agony and remorse and failure could have been avoided if there had been at least some rudimentary learning before they entered the partnership.
I have come to think that one of the most satisfying experiences I know β and also one of the most growth-promoting experiences for the other person β is just fully to appreciate this individual in the same way that I appreciate a sunset.
In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?
I declare I would rather be a kitten and cry, 'Mew!' than live as I see many of my female acquaintances do, tearing each other's characters to pieces, and wearing out their lives in vanity and vexation of spirit.
it is a heartBreaking sound, Amir Jan, the Wailing of a mother. I pray to Allah you Never hear it.
A lot of ink is given over to mythologizing female friendships as curious, fragile relationships that are always intensely fraught. Stop reading writing that encourages this mythology.
One of the most important lessons to learn about relationships is that it is not another personβs job to make you happy. Your happiness is not someone elseβs job. Until you realize this, you will always be dissatisfied with your relationships. Ultimately, your relationship with others mirrors your relationship to happiness.
Male and female have the power to fuse into one solid, both because both are nourished in both and because soul is the same thing in all living creatures, although the body of each is different.
Though debts are condemned in the financial world, the world of friendship and love may perversely depend on well-managed debts.
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