To confess your sins to God is not to tell [God] anything [God] doesn't already know. Until you confess them, however, they are the abyss between you. When you confess them, they become the bridge.
Frederick BuechnerRead
The pride that keeps us from forgiving is the same pride which keeps us from accepting forgiveness.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Pride can hinder both the act of forgiving others and the acceptance of forgiveness from them.
This quote by Frederick Buechner suggests that pride is a significant barrier in human relationships. It prevents individuals from forgiving those who have wronged them, as well as from accepting forgiveness when it is offered. Pride can manifest as an unwillingness to admit faults or the fear of vulnerability, which ultimately leads to a cycle of unresolved conflicts and emotional distance between people.
Themes
PrideForgivenessRelationshipsAcceptanceEmpathy
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about healing personal relationships, one might share this quote to illustrate the impact of pride.
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We find by losing. We hold fast by letting go. We become something new by ceasing to be something old. This seems to be close to the heart of that mystery. I know no more now than I ever did about the far side of death as the last letting-go of all, but now I know that I do not need to know, and that I do not need to be afraid of not knowing. God knows. That is all that matters.
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To be wise is to be eternally curious.
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