Maharajji told me, 'Give up anger and I'll help you.' I found _x000D_ that love freed me back into the ocean of love and my righteous anger didn't do that. And I would rather be free than right.
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The root of compassion is not empathy; that is kindness. Kindness is great, but it is not the ultimate compassion. Ultimate compassion relieves the suffering that comes from separateness. The suffering that comes from separateness is relieved only when you are fully present with another person, not when you are separately present.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Compassion goes beyond mere empathy and kindness; it involves being fully present with someone to ease their suffering.
In this quote, Ram Dass emphasizes that true compassion is not simply about feeling empathy for others, but rather about being deeply connected and present with them in their suffering. This presence allows for a profound relief from the pain of feeling separate from one another, highlighting a deeper level of connection that leads to true healing.
Themes
CompassionEmpathyKindnessConnectionSufferingPresence
In practice
Example use cases
Using this quote during a workshop on emotional intelligence to emphasize the importance of being present with others.
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