It is in books, poems, paintings which often give us the confidence to take seriously feelings in ourselves that we might otherwise never have thought to acknowledge.
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Endeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote suggests that seeking beauty or intimacy often misses the deeper emotions behind our desires.
Alain De Botton's quote reflects on the human tendency to satisfy emotional cravings through superficial means, such as acquiring beautiful objects or pursuing romantic encounters. He argues that both actions may lack creativity and fail to address the underlying feelings of longing that motivate us, inviting a deeper exploration of our emotions beyond mere physical expression or consumption.
Themes
DesireLoveBeautyLongingSuperficiality
In practice
Example use cases
This quote is perfect for a discussion on the nature of desire in a psychology class.
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