The experienced writer says to the anguished novice: 'Just do it; get something, anything, on to the screen or page, just establish a flow of words, and criticise them later.' You give this advice but can't always take it.
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I was the subject of an experiment in love. I lived my life under her gaze, undergoing certain trials for her so that she would not have to undergo them for herself. But, how are our certainties forged, except by the sweat and tears of other people? If your parents don't teach you how to live; you learn it from books; and clever people watch you learn from your mistakes.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote explores the nature of love and learning through the experiences and sacrifices made for others.
In this quote, Hilary Mantel reflects on the dynamics of love and the lessons we learn throughout our lives. She suggests that love often involves selfless acts of sacrifice and that our certainties and wisdom are shaped not just by our own experiences, but also by the struggles and insights of others. The essence of learning to live is depicted as a collaborative journey—either taught by parents, discovered through literature, or gleaned from observing the experiences of those around us.
Themes
LoveSacrificeLearningExperienceWisdom
In practice
Example use cases
In a wedding speech, one might use this quote to highlight the sacrifices made in the name of love.
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