Among writers, if you don't have a therapist, it's like saying you don't keep a journal or use the thesaurus. It's a natural accompaniment.
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I learned to make things not matter, to put a seal on my hopes and place them on a high shelf, out of reach. And by telling myself that there was nothing inside those hopes anyway, I avoided the wounds of deep disappointment. The pain was no worse than the quick sting of a booster shot. And yet thinking about this makes me ache again. How is it that as a child I knew I should have been loved more? Is everyone born with a bottomless emotional resevoir?
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects on the complexity of hope and emotional resilience, suggesting that by detaching from one's hopes, one can shield themselves from disappointment.
In this quote, Amy Tan delves into the concept of emotional protection and the pain of unfulfilled expectations. She reflects on her childhood awareness of needing more love and suggests that by placing her hopes out of reach, she has managed to shield herself from the hurt of deep disappointment. However, this detachment also leads to an ache for the love and connection she recognizes should have been present, raising questions about the nature of hope and emotional depth.
Themes
HopeDisappointmentEmotionsChildhoodLove
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be used in a discussion about emotional resilience and the impacts of childhood experiences on adult life.
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