Everybody must be managed. Queens must be managed. Kings must be managed, for men want managing almost as much as women, and that's saying a good deal.
Thomas HardyRead
Thoroughly convinced of the impossibility of his own suit, a high resolve constrained him not to injure that of another. This is a lover's most stoical virtue, as the lack of it is a lover's most venial sin.
Interpretation
What this quote means
True love involves a selfless commitment to the beloved's happiness, even in the face of personal despair.
In this quote, Thomas Hardy highlights the noble virtue of a lover who, despite feeling an overwhelming sense of impossibility regarding their own romantic aspirations, chooses to uphold the dignity of another's affections. This self-restraint reflects a deep sense of honor in love, suggesting that true love requires not just desire but also the capacity to prioritize the feelings and prospects of the beloved, even when the lover's own aspirations seem futile. The absence of this virtue, according to Hardy, indicates a more trivial or forgivable flaw in character.
Themes
LoveSelflessnessVirtueCommitmentSacrifice
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be shared during a wedding speech to highlight the essence of true love.
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