I have often thought of it as one of the most barbarous customs in the world, considering us as a civilized and a Christian country, that we deny the advantages of learning to women.
Daniel DefoeRead
Thus fear of danger is ten thousand times more terrifying than danger itself when apparent to the eyes ; and we find the burden of anxiety greater, by much, than the evil which we are anxious about.
Interpretation
Fear often amplifies the perceived dangers more than the actual risks themselves.
This quote highlights the idea that the anticipation and fear of danger can be much more overwhelming and exhausting than the actual danger one may face. Defoe points out that our worries often create a larger burden than the realities we fear, suggesting that overcoming anxiety can lead to a clearer view of the challenges we face.
In practice
Use this quote in a speech about overcoming personal fears.
I have often thought of it as one of the most barbarous customs in the world, considering us as a civilized and a Christian country, that we deny the advantages of learning to women.
These reflections made me very sensible of the goodness of Providence to me, and very thankful for my present condition, with all its hardships and misfortunes ; and this part also I cannot but recommend to the reflection of those who are apt, in their misery, to say, Is any affliction like mine? Let them consider how much worse the cases of some people are, and their case might have been, if Providence had thought fit.
And which I take notice of here, to put those discontented people in mind of it, who cannot enjoy comfortably what God has given them, because they see and covet something that he has not given them. All our discontents about what we want appeared to me to spring from the want of thankfulness for what we have.
I have since often observed, how incongruous and irrational the common temper of mankind is, especially of youth ... that they are not ashamed to sin, and yet are ashamed to repent; not ashamed of the action for which they ought justly to be esteemed fools, but are ashamed of the returning, which only can make them be esteemed wise men.
I hear much of people's calling out to punish the guilty, but very few are concerned to clear the innocent.
All men would be tyrants if they could.
I'm standing on a field full of landmines doing the moonwalk hoping i blow up in time
Brave men rejoice in adversity, just as brave soldiers triumph in war.
Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It's tough to do that when we're terrified about what people might see or think.
When I had cancer, people were surprised at how cheerful and upbeat I was, but I couldn't let myself go to depression - to go there, that defeat would allow everything in. If you look too far into the abyss, you might never come out again. You can stand on the abyss and peep but not give in to sadness.
All brave men love; for he only is brave who has affections to fight for, whether in the daily battle of life, or in physical contests.
For some, the fear of coming out is so great, they can continue to live an inauthentic life. But at a certain point, the pain becomes too much to bear. For me, having one more day pass by where I wasn't living my true self seemed like such a wasted opportunity, such a wasted life.
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