It is in books, poems, paintings which often give us the confidence to take seriously feelings in ourselves that we might otherwise never have thought to acknowledge.
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As victims of hurt, we frequently don't bring up what ails us, because so many wounds look absurd in the light of day.
Interpretation
What this quote means
People often hide their pain because it seems trivial when exposed to the outside world.
This quote by Alain De Botton reflects the human tendency to conceal emotional and psychological wounds. Individuals may feel that their struggles are insignificant or absurd when compared to others, leading to a reluctance to express their suffering. The fear of judgment or misunderstanding often complicates the healing process and underscores the importance of empathy in addressing personal pain.
Themes
PainEmotionsPsychologyHealingVulnerability
In practice
Example use cases
In a mental health seminar discussing the importance of sharing feelings.
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