Whenever you speak to someone, you are presuming the two of you have a certain degree of familiarity - which your words might alter. So every sentence has to do two things at once: convey a message and continue to negotiate that relationship.
Interpretation
Words not only convey messages but also influence relationships with others.
This quote highlights the dual role of language in human interaction. When we communicate, our words carry meaning but also shape and redefine the dynamics of our relationships with others. Each sentence we utter is not just about the literal message; it also plays a part in negotiating the familiarity and connection we share with the listener.
In practice
This quote can be used in a speech about effective communication in the workplace.
The foundation of individual rights is the assumption that people have wants and needs and are authorities on what those wants and needs are. If people's stated desires were just some kind of erasable inscription or reprogrammable brainwashing, any atrocity could be justified.
The linguistic clumsiness of tourists and students might be the price we pay for the linguistic genius we displayed as babies, just as the decrepitude of age in the price we pay for the vigor of youth.
If we are not to abandon values such as peace and equality, or our commitments to science and truth, then we must pry these values away from claims about our psychological makeup that are vulnerable to being proven false.
We adults protect ourselves with laws, police, workplace regulations and social norms and there is no conceivable reason why children should be left more vulnerable, other that laziness or callousness in considering what life is like from their point of view.
The idea that children are passive repositories to be shaped by their parents has been massively overstated. A child's peer group is a far greater determinant of its development and achievements than parental aspiration.
Reason is non-negotiable. Try to argue against it, or to exclude it from some realm of knowledge, and you've already lost the argument, because you're using reason to make your case. ... We don't "believe" in reason.
It takes two to speak the truth: one to speak, and another to hear.
In true dialogue, both sides are willing to change.
We move but our words stand become responsible for more than we intended and this is verbal privilege
I speak and speak, [...] but the listener retains only the words he is expecting. [...] It is not the voice that commands the story: it is the ear.
A good conversationalist is not one who remembers what was said, but says what someone wants to remember.
Speak from your mind and people will hear you with their mind. Speak from your heart and people will hear you with their heart.
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