It is in books, poems, paintings which often give us the confidence to take seriously feelings in ourselves that we might otherwise never have thought to acknowledge.
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We each appear to hold within ourselves a range of divergent views as to our native qualities.. And amid such uncertainty, we typically turn to the wider world to settle the question of our significance.. we seem beholden to affections of others to endure ourselves.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects on the uncertainty of self-perception and the need for external validation to affirm our significance.
Alain De Botton discusses the complex nature of self-identity and the internal conflicts we face regarding our inherent qualities. He suggests that in an attempt to understand our own worth, we often seek reassurance from the opinions and affections of others, indicating a dependence on external validation to construct our sense of self and significance in the world.
Themes
Self-PerceptionValidationIdentitySignificancePhilosophy
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech about self-esteem, one might reference this quote to highlight the importance of understanding inner worth.
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