Acts that proceed from your calm center are always more effective than acts that proceed from fear, guilt, or anger.
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Acts that proceed from your calm center are always more effective than acts that proceed from fear, guilt, or anger.
Guilt is just as powerful, but its influence is positive, while shame's is destructive. Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement.
Judging yourself to be full of virtue paralyses. Judging yourself to be full of guilt also paralyses.
When guilt rears its ugly head confront it, discuss it and let it go. The past is over. It is time to ask what can we do right, not what did we do wrong. Forgive yourself and move on.
Virtue, dear friend, needs no defense,_x000D_ The surest guard is innocence: _x000D_ None knew, till guilt created fear, _x000D_ What darts or poisoned arrows were
I doubt that we can ever successfully impose values or attitudes or behaviors on our children certainly not by threat, guilt, or punishment. But I do believe they can be induced through relationships where parents and children are growing together. Such relationships are, I believe, build on trust, example, talk, and caring.
Great is the guilt of an unnecessary war.
Though inclination be as sharp as will,_x000D_ _x000D_ My stronger guilt defeats my strong intent,_x000D_ _x000D_ And, like a man to double business bound,_x000D_ _x000D_ I stand in pause where I shall first begin,_x000D_ _x000D_ And both neglect.
So great are the psychological resistances to war in modern nations, that every war must appear to be a war of defence against a menacing, murderous aggressor. There must be no ambiguity about whom the public is to hate. Guilt and guilelessness must be assessed geographically and all the guilt must be on the other side of the frontier.
And increasingly - you know this and so do I we're losing the youth everywhere. They hate us; they are not interested in having more fears and guilt laid on them. They're not interested in more sermons and exhortations. But they are interested in learning about love. How can I be happy? How can I live? How can I taste the marvelous things that the mystics speak of?
When we played softball, I'd steal second base, feel guilty and go back.
Life without industry is guilt, and industry without art is brutality.
The greatest incitement to guilt is the hope of sinning with impunity.
The Refinement of Shame. People are not ashamed to think something foul, but they are ashamed when they think these foul thoughts are attributed to them.
Nothing but man of all envenomed things, doth work upon itself, with inborn stings.
It is only because man believes himself to be free, not because he is free, that he experiences remorse and pricks of conscience.
They whose guilt within their bosom lies, imagine every eye beholds their blame.
There may be responsible persons, but there are no guilty ones.
One unconsciously takes it for granted that doer and sufferer think and feel alike, and according to this supposition we measure the guilt of the one by the pain of the other.
Nothing more unqualified the man to act with prudence than a misfortune that is attended with shame and guilt.
We are more pained when one of our friends is guilty of something shameful than when we do it ourselves.
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