Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery..

Erotic intelligence stretches far beyond a repertoire of sexual techniques. It is an intelligence that celebrates curiosity and play, the power of th….

Sex is about where you can take me, not what you can do to me..

When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves become..

Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much….

Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of….

Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness..

Eroticism thrives in the space between the self and the other..

Most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day - the erotic mind is not very politica….

People cheat on each other in a hundred different ways: indifference, emotional neglect, contempt, lack of respect, years of refusal of intimacy. Che….

Trouble looms when monogamy is no longer a free expression of loyalty but a form of enforced compliance..

It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy..

One of the big misconceptions is that affairs or trysts are flings about sex. And sometimes they are, but much more often they are about desire. And ….

Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy.

In committed sex, in marriage, people don't feel the need to seduce or to build anticipation - - that's an effort they think they no longer need to d….

The whole notion of one person being enough for everything gets instantly challenged when you start to talk with somebody about wanting more or of wa….

Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At the same time, we expect o….

Romantics value intensity over stability. Realists value security over passion. But both are often disappointed, for few people can live happily at e….

At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been considered a contr….

If you start to feel that you have given up too many parts of yourself to be with your partner, then one day you will end up looking for another pers….

Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes..