Marriage isn't meant to make you happy - it's there because it gives you a life in which you can find happiness..

Today, we turn to one person to provide what an entire village once did: a sense of grounding, meaning, and continuity. At the same time, we expect o….

Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness..

Eroticism thrives in the space between the self and the other..

The whole notion of one person being enough for everything gets instantly challenged when you start to talk with somebody about wanting more or of wa….

Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery..

Sex is about where you can take me, not what you can do to me..

Very often we don’t go elsewhere because we are looking for another person. We go elsewhere because we are looking for another self. It isn’t so much….

It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy..

Mystery is not always about travelling to new places, it is about looking with new eyes..

Women want to talk first, connect first, then have sex. For men, sex is the connection. Sex is man's language of intimacy.

Most of us will get turned on at night by the very same things that we will demonstrate against during the day - the erotic mind is not very politica….

Romantics value intensity over stability. Realists value security over passion. But both are often disappointed, for few people can live happily at e….

Love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of….

In committed sex, in marriage, people don't feel the need to seduce or to build anticipation - - that's an effort they think they no longer need to d….

One of the big misconceptions is that affairs or trysts are flings about sex. And sometimes they are, but much more often they are about desire. And ….

At this point, we are living one of the greatest experiments in humankind - to create something that has, throughout history, been considered a contr….

If a woman isn't feeling sexual with herself, she won't respond to advances from any partner, male or female. When this woman goes dancing, she's fin….

Erotic intelligence stretches far beyond a repertoire of sexual techniques. It is an intelligence that celebrates curiosity and play, the power of th….

When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from, but the person we have ourselves become..

People cheat on each other in a hundred different ways: indifference, emotional neglect, contempt, lack of respect, years of refusal of intimacy. Che….