It is exceedingly difficult to maintain a sense of absence without turning that absence into some kind of presence.

Anger is sign that something needs to change..

There is a yearning that is as spiritual as it is sensual. Even when it degenerates into addiction, there is something salvageable from the original ….

Buddhism teaches us that happiness does not come from any kind of acquisitiveness, be it material or psychological. Happiness comes from letting go. ….

I have come to see that our problem is that we don't know what happiness is. We confuse it with a life uncluttered by feelings of anxiety, rage, doub….

When we seek happiness through accumulation, either outside of ourselves-from other people, relationships, or material goods-or from our own self-dev….

Trauma never goes away completely, it changes perhaps, softens some with time, but never completely goes away..

In building a path through the self to the far shore of awareness, we have to carefully pick our way through our own wilderness. If we can put our mi….

It’s one of my theories that when people give you advice, they’re really just talking to themselves in the past..

The willingness to face traumas - be they large, small, primitive or fresh - is the key to healing from them. They may never disappear in the way we ….

We are looking for a way to feel more real, but we do not realize that to feel more real we have to push ourselves further into the unknown..

One of the age-old truths about love is that while it offers unparalleled opportunities for union and the lifting of ego boundaries, it also washes u….

Anxiety and desire are two, often conflicting, orientations to the unknown. Both are tilted toward the future. Desire implies a willingness, or a nee….

Depressed people think they know themselves, but maybe they only know depression..

If aspects of the person remain undigested-cut off, denied, projected, rejected, indulged, or otherwise unassimilated-they become the points around w….

If things do not exist as fixed, independent entities, then how can they die? Our notion of death as the sudden expiration of that which was once so ….

Desire is a teacher: When we immerse ourselves in it without guilt, shame, or clinging, it can show us something special about our own minds that all….

While the primary function of formal Buddhist meditation is to create the possibility of the experience of "being," my work as a therapist has shown ….

To free desire from the tendency to cling, we have to be willing to stumble over ourselves..

The picture we present to ourselves of who we think we ought to be obscures who we really are..

To be free, to come to terms with our lives, we have to have a direct experience of ourselves as we really are, warts and all..