We had loved people we really shouldn't have loved and then married other people in order to forget our impossible loves, or we had once called out hello into the cauldron of the world and then run away before anyone could respond.
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He breathed out the bitter air that makes women doubt everything, and I breathed it in, as I had always done. I expelled my dust, the powder of everything I had destroyed with doubt, and he pulled it into his lungs.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote speaks to the impact of doubt and how it can affect relationships and personal identity.
In this quote, Miranda July explores the pervasive nature of doubt within relationships, particularly how it influences perceptions and emotions. The act of breathing in the 'bitter air' signifies taking in the negativity and insecurities that come with doubt, which not only affects women's confidence but also the dynamics between partners. It highlights the shared experience of processing and confronting these feelings, suggesting that doubt can be both a personal burden and a relational one, ultimately calling attention to the need for support and understanding in relationships.
Themes
DoubtRelationshipsAirTrustIntimacy
In practice
Example use cases
During a discussion about trust issues in relationships, this quote could be used to highlight the impact of doubt.
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