It's not about curing the disease, but healing the life; then the physical benefits come.
I was called a 'CD' by a suicidal teenager, who is alive today because I became her 'Chosen Dad,' who loved her. We all have the potential to re-parent ourselves and others.
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The quote emphasizes the transformative power of love and support in healing oneself and others.
In this quote, Bernie Siegel speaks about the significant impact of being a guiding and supportive figure in someone’s life, especially during their darkest moments. By stepping into the role of a 'Chosen Dad' for a suicidal teenager, Siegel highlights the concept of re-parenting, where individuals can offer love and nurturing not only to others but also to themselves as a way to foster healing and growth. This message reinforces the idea that relationships and our capacity to care for one another can lead to profound changes in life and mental well-being.
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During a mental health seminar, to highlight the importance of support systems.
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