Whatever terrible things may have happened to you, only one thing allows them to damage your core self, and that is continued belief in them.
To complete your daily mental hygiene, observe any part of you that is upset or anxious, and offer that part of yourself the following simple wishes: 'May you be well. May you be happy. May you be free from suffering.' Repeat this until you actually mean it.
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What this quote means
This quote emphasizes the importance of addressing our emotional struggles with kindness and compassion.
Martha Beck highlights a practice of self-reflection and emotional healing through mindfulness and compassion. By recognizing feelings of anxiety or upset within ourselves and consciously wishing for our well-being, happiness, and freedom from suffering, we can cultivate a healthier mental state. This process not only aids in personal growth but also fosters a deeper connection with oneself, emphasizing the necessity of treating our inner selves with care.
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Example use cases
In a wellness workshop focused on mental health, this quote could be shared to encourage participants to practice self-kindness.
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