Our goal should be to develop work-life policies that enable people to put their gender values into practice. So let's stop arguing about the hard choices women make and help more women and men avoid such hard choices.
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Economically as well as emotionally, modern marriage has become like an affluent gated community. It has become harder for low-income Americans to enter and sustain.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Modern marriage is increasingly exclusive and challenging for low-income individuals to access.
Stephanie Coontz's quote highlights the socioeconomic barriers that have emerged in contemporary marriage, likening it to an affluent gated community. This metaphor emphasizes that, much like exclusive neighborhoods, marriage has become less accessible for low-income Americans, who often find it difficult to enter and maintain relationships within the structures of modern society. The quote addresses both economic and emotional aspects, suggesting that the ideals surrounding marriage have evolved into something that not everyone can reach or sustain.
Themes
MarriageSocioeconomicAccessibilityRelationshipsExclusivityEmotionalEconomic
In practice
Example use cases
In a speech discussing the importance of accessibility in relationships, you could quote this to emphasize challenges faced by low-income individuals.
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