It no longer makes sense to see singlehood and marriage as two distinct and stable social categories that should be accorded different legal rights and social esteem.
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Our goal should be to develop work-life policies that enable people to put their gender values into practice. So let's stop arguing about the hard choices women make and help more women and men avoid such hard choices.
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What this quote means
The quote emphasizes the importance of creating work-life policies that support gender values and reduce difficult choices for both women and men.
Stephanie Coontz highlights the need for work-life policies that reflect and support the gender values individuals hold. Instead of debating the tough decisions that women face in balancing work and family, the focus should shift toward creating an environment where both men and women can thrive without having to make such hard choices, thus fostering equality and support in the workplace.
Themes
Work-Life BalanceGender ValuesPoliciesEqualitySupport
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about workplace equality, this quote can be used to advocate for better policies.
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