Our goal should be to develop work-life policies that enable people to put their gender values into practice. So let's stop arguing about the hard choices women make and help more women and men avoid such hard choices.
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It no longer makes sense to see singlehood and marriage as two distinct and stable social categories that should be accorded different legal rights and social esteem.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote suggests that viewing singlehood and marriage as entirely separate social categories is outdated and unjust.
Stephanie Coontz's quote challenges the traditional classifications of singlehood and marriage, arguing that these social statuses should not have fundamentally different legal rights or societal values. She emphasizes the need to reevaluate how we perceive relationships, advocating for a more inclusive understanding that recognizes the complexities and variations of contemporary partnerships. By doing so, Coontz calls for a society that values individual choices and experiences equally, regardless of marital status.
Themes
SinglehoodMarriageRelationshipsSocial CategoriesLegal Rights
In practice
Example use cases
In a discussion about changing marriage laws to include more diverse relationships.
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