Of the widow's countless death-duties there is really just one that matters: on the first anniversary of her husband's death the widow should think I kept myself alive.
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I was trying not to be happy, hopeful. I did not believe I deserved happiness or even hope, if you knew my soul.
Interpretation
What this quote means
This quote expresses a struggle with feelings of unworthiness regarding happiness and hope.
Joyce Carol Oates reflects on a personal internal conflict where she feels undeserving of happiness and hope due to her self-perception and inner turmoil. The quote suggests a deep-seated belief that one's past or soul somehow disqualifies them from experiencing joy, highlighting how self-worth can greatly influence emotional well-being.
Themes
HappinessHopeSelf-WorthSoulDeserving
In practice
Example use cases
In a motivational speech about overcoming personal struggles, this quote can illustrate the journey towards recognizing one's worth.
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