Of the widow's countless death-duties there is really just one that matters: on the first anniversary of her husband's death the widow should think I kept myself alive.
Joyce Carol OatesRead
I was trying not to be happy, hopeful. I did not believe I deserved happiness or even hope, if you knew my soul.
Interpretation
This quote expresses a struggle with feelings of unworthiness regarding happiness and hope.
Joyce Carol Oates reflects on a personal internal conflict where she feels undeserving of happiness and hope due to her self-perception and inner turmoil. The quote suggests a deep-seated belief that one's past or soul somehow disqualifies them from experiencing joy, highlighting how self-worth can greatly influence emotional well-being.
In practice
In a motivational speech about overcoming personal struggles, this quote can illustrate the journey towards recognizing one's worth.
Of the widow's countless death-duties there is really just one that matters: on the first anniversary of her husband's death the widow should think I kept myself alive.
I never really knew I wanted to 'be' a writer, but I was always writing from a very young age. It became more conscious as an ideal when I was in my twenties.
I'm drawn to write about upstate New York in the way in which a dreamer might have recurring dreams. My childhood and girlhood were spent in upstate New York, in the country north of Buffalo and West of Rochester. So this part of New York state is very familiar to me and, with its economic difficulties, has become emblematic of much of American life.
My writing is often a way of 'bearing witness' for others who lack the education and the opportunity to tell their own stories, so I hope that my writing won't be affected too much by my personal life.
The worst cynicism: a belief in luck.
. . . there is a wish in the heart of mankind to be distracted and confused. Truth is but one attraction, and not always the most powerful.
The unselfish effort to bring cheer to others will be the beginning of a happier life for ourselves.
There are two ways to spread happiness; either be the light who shines it or be the mirror who reflects it.
When you do not know what to do or which way to turn, smile. This will relax your mind and let the sunshine of happiness into your soul.
Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.
You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation.
When I wake up every morning, I smile and say, 'Thank you.' Because out of my window I can see the mountains, then go hiking with my dog and share her bounding joy in the world.
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