If people start to buy the idea that machines are great companions for the elderly or for children, as they increasingly seem to do, we are really playing with fire.
Sherry TurkleRead
Human relationships are rich and they're messy and they're demanding. And we clean them up with technology. Texting, email, posting, all of these things let us present the self as we want to be. We get to edit, and that means we get to delete, and that means we get to retouch, the face, the voice, the flesh, the body -- not too little, not too much, just right.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Human connections are complex, and technology helps us shape how we present ourselves within them.
Sherry Turkle's quote highlights the intricate nature of human relationships, which are filled with both richness and challenges. She emphasizes how technology, such as texting and social media, allows individuals to curate their identities and interactions, enabling them to control how they are perceived by others. This control can lead to a distorted representation of one's true self, as people may feel the need to edit or alter their communications to achieve an ideal image, thus complicating genuine connections.
Themes
RelationshipsTechnologySelf-PresentationIdentityCommunication
In practice
Example use cases
Using this quote in a discussion about the impact of social media on friendships.
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