Whatever terrible things may have happened to you, only one thing allows them to damage your core self, and that is continued belief in them.
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Indecision may come from an instinctive hunch that there's more you need to know - which means it's time to learn everything you can about the pros and cons of each option. You can continue on this track, however, only as long as you're unearthing genuinely new information.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Indecision often signals the need for more knowledge before making a choice.
Martha Beck emphasizes that feeling unsure about a decision can actually stem from an intuitive understanding that more information is needed. She suggests that this sense of indecision should prompt a thorough exploration of the options available, weighing their pros and cons, while ensuring that the pursuit of knowledge is continually revealing new insights rather than just retracing familiar territory.
Themes
IndecisionKnowledgeOptionsDecision MakingLearning
In practice
Example use cases
This quote can be shared during a team meeting where members are unsure about project directions.
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