Liars share with those they deceive the desire not to be deceived.
Interpretation
The quote suggests that liars and their victims both want to avoid deception, highlighting a shared human desire for honesty.
Sissela Bok's quote illustrates the complex relationship between liars and those they deceive, emphasizing that both parties have a mutual interest in truthfulness. It points to a fundamental aspect of human interactions: the desire for trust and authenticity. The act of lying creates a paradox where the liar simultaneously yearns for the same honesty that they disrupt, reflecting on the moral implications of deceit and the inherent struggles of interpersonal relationships.
In practice
In a discussion about integrity in leadership, one might quote this to emphasize the value of honesty.
I believe that a guarantee of public access to government information is indispensable in the long run for any democratic society.... if officials make public only what they want citizens to know, then publicity becomes a sham and accountability meaningless.
To mature is in part to realize that while complete intimacy and omniscience and power cannot be had, self-transcendence, growth, and closeness to others are nevertheless within one's reach.
Trust is a social good to be protected just as much as the air we breathe or the water we drink. When it is damaged, the community as a whole suffers; and when it is destroyed, societies falter and collapse
Are people the best judges of their own happiness, or outsiders? In defining happiness, should we think of entire lives or of shorter periods such as moments, days, or years? And to what extent are virtue and happiness linked?
We are all, in a sense, experts on secrecy. From earliest childhood we feel its mystery and attraction. We know both the power it confers and the burden it imposes. We learn how it can delight, give breathing space and protect.
Secrecy is as indispensable to human beings as fire, and as greatly feared.
All our scientific and philosophic ideals are altars to unknown gods.
Before his death, Rabbi Zusya said "In the coming world, they will not ask me: 'Why were you not Moses?' They will ask me: 'Why were you not Zusya?
Guilt is one side of a nasty triangle; the other two are shame and stigma. This grim coalition combines to inculpate women themselves of the crimes committed against them.
Discipleship is based solely on devotion to Jesus Christ, not on following after a particular belief or doctrine.
Not how the world is, but that it is, is the mystery.
As for my own views, they've of course evolved over the years. This conception of 'renouncing beliefs' is very odd, as if we're in some kind of religious cult. I 'renounce beliefs' practically every time I think about the topics or find out what someone else is thinking.
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