Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough.
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Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it's about earning approval and acceptance.
Interpretation
What this quote means
Perfectionism is often mistaken for self-improvement, but it primarily seeks external validation.
Brene Brown highlights the distinction between striving for personal excellence and the unhealthy pursuit of perfectionism. While many admire perfectionism as a motivation to be one's best, it often stems from a deeper need for approval and acceptance from others, ultimately leading to stress and dissatisfaction. Authentic self-improvement focuses on personal growth, whereas perfectionism focuses on meeting external standards.
Themes
PerfectionismSelf-ImprovementApprovalAcceptanceValidation
In practice
Example use cases
In a workshop on mental health, this quote can help participants understand the difference between healthy ambition and the harmful quest for perfection.
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