We read and remember certain writers because they offer distinctive voices and perspectives, because they've given themselves over completely and passionately to their obsessions while vigorously ignoring everything else.
And it occurred to me that in this new millennial life of instant and ubiquitous connection, you don't in fact communicate so much as leave messages for one another, these odd improvisational performances, often sorry bits and samplings of ourselves that can't help but seem out of context. And then when you do finally reach someone, everyone's so out of practice or too hopeful or else embittered that you wonder if it would be better not to attempt contact at all.
Interpretation
What this quote means
The quote reflects on how modern communication has become fragmented and often lacks genuine connection.
In this quote, Chang-Rae Lee critiques the nature of communication in the digital age, suggesting that the way we connect with one another has devolved into leaving scattered messages rather than engaging in meaningful dialogue. He emphasizes the feeling of disconnection in an era where instant communication is prevalent but often results in interactions that lack depth and context, leaving individuals feeling unsure about the efficacy of reaching out to one another.
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Example use cases
This quote can be used in a discussion about the impacts of social media on personal relationships.
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