It’s a very difficult era in which to be a person, just a real, actual person, instead of a collection of personality traits selected from an endless Automat of characters.
I find, the older I get, the more surprised I am about how hesitant people are to say what they really want, what they really dream about, what really drives them. It's as if sometimes we're sort of embarrassed, as we get older, to be transparent about that. But you save so much time if you're transparent about what you want.
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What this quote means
As people grow older, they often become hesitant to express their true desires and dreams, but being transparent about them can save time and lead to fulfillment.
In this quote, Gillian Flynn reflects on the tendency of individuals to hold back their true aspirations and emotions as they age. The fear of vulnerability and the societal pressure to conform can inhibit open expression of one's desires and dreams. Flynn emphasizes the importance of being transparent and honest about what one wants, suggesting that this openness not only fosters authenticity but also expedites the journey toward achieving one's goals and living a fulfilling life.
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In a motivational speech about pursuing one's dreams.
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